The Good, Bad and Ugly ...

The Good
Just lately realized Married Son's cat was pregnant by Shiloh before he ran away a while back. She gave birth on Friday to two beautiful and healthy kitties. They're precious. I will *not* be keeping one of them, though. Just don't have the time or money at this point in my life to adopt a new furbaby.

Single Son has taken his Lieutenant's exam. His score was 98%. Now all he has to do is go up before the review board for the promotion to happen. I was joking with him, "great now I have to learn how to spell Lieutenant". He said "easy Mom, L T period" Oy vey.

The Bad
Married Son was taken to the E.R. Friday morning in extreme pain. Turns out it's kidney stones. He'll be fine. You know me ... I can't let an opportunity slide for teasing him ... so I've called him Stoney, a stoner ... and stick and stones (in reference to his skiing into a tree years ago). The best one so far was DIL calling him "Pebbles".

The Ugly
Also Friday ... It's been five months since that whole Alien running away incident. I hadn't heard from her in a while so decided to check her myspace to see if there were any updates there. OMG! I am NOT reading the words "Mommy, I'm Pregnant" in her banner headline. Oh yes I am! Shit ... this is not what I wanted to read, but at the same time it doesn't surprise me in the least. That damned sperm donor of hers does not supervise her ... gave her that freaking car (and $50 a week for "allowance") ... doesn't discipline ... allows her to do what she wants when she wants where she wants ... and makes no rules. She's been seeing a 31 year old ... remember she's ONLY 17, and Bubba never took that damned car away! !! I've begged him to take away the car, her phone and her computer ... but no, one excuse after the other on why he wouldn't take things away or forbid her from seeing him and here we are now. I called him at work on Saturday ... I was livid! He knew about it, he had found out earlier in the week when he saw the doctor's physical exam paper that was needed before she could be put on the pill - at the bottom of the paper it said "pregnant". And he didn't bother to call me! Said he assumed she had already told me. HELLO? WTF did we talk about not last month when I told him (and he agreed) "never assume she's told the other parent, we need to open communications. I'd rather hear something twice than not at all". I went to town on his ass! Something I should have done years ago ... but sadly the damage is done. I guess she's due in November. And from the sounds of it she's going to be marrying that asshole who knocked her up in October when she turns 18. And asshole is putting it mildly ... he's a chronic liar (to the point we believe he's given us a false name), refuses to get a job, is a control freak, vulgar, and the "best" ... he's a convicted felon. What his crime was, I don't know - he's told us three different stories on his crime, but he's got to take monthly drug tests and is on probation for a lot of years to come. He is not allowed in my home (part because I won't let him, part because it's a parole/probation violation for him to be around weapons - Son's a cop, we have weapons in the home), and will actually go back to jail for a long time if he tries (oh, let him try, let him TRY to gain entry). And she thinks this moron is desirable WHY? What type of life will she have with this loser? And that poor baby. My god. She'll be responsible for raising it, and working, and taking care of everything his pathetically lazy ass won't. Including driving him everywhere, I don't know why but he's forbidden from having a license while on probation.

So much for the future she dreamed of not a year ago ... she's even dropped out of school from what I'm gathering.

She is my daughter, she messed up big time ... I will be there for her as her mother, but I will NOT financially support in anyway this decision she's made. I will have nothing to do with him. He needs to support his child ... and he better be man enough to do so.

She's pretty much avoiding everyone ... so all I've been able to gather is from either her myspace page, or her friends myspace pages.

I'm past feeling sick to my stomach today. I'm hurt, shocked, devastated, and disappointed. I have no idea how long it will take for her to face up to her actions and contact me. I'm guessing it'll be weeks yet.

I'd really like to go into hiding myself at this point in time. But we know that ain't gonna happen. I face my responsibilities ... I'll hide after the semester ends. Hopefully.